I have 2 friends. None of the girlfriends care about me, so I did not talk to her for a long time because she makes me feel bad about myself. It’s all about how things got worse for him and I tried to cancel plans with him because my grandfather was there and he told me ‘okay, but I’m not happy with you’. It’s a week after my second friend hurt me a lot about me being ‘too poor’ to go and have coffee with him … after he’s always busy and I’ve always thinking of him.
work:
my work is struggling. The payment was low and I could not afford anything. I got a written warning a few days ago because it turned out I was not happy enough. I do not like to be here anymore because it bothers me.
house:
I live with my mom and brother and they always mean something to me. They both smoke at home and I quit a year ago but they did not help and my brother just said it was 2 on one and my mom always chose her side for things and wanted to wish me everything even even if it was good for the brother - My husband to do it. …
if I clean the house I will get into trouble because I did nothing else and vice versa. I’ve always been in trouble for so many things and I do not understand why.
I do not want people to ask me to move out of the house because I can not afford it. I do not want people to say that they should change jobs because I am trying and no one is currently accepting it. I try to talk to people and they throw it in my face again.
My mom even told me not to feel like I should. I just want it to stop.
Your situation should look bleak. Sorry about that. Being sad and isolated from friends and family can really affect you, especially when you’re in the room, but not ‘there’ when it makes sense. I fully understand these issues I can guarantee.
If you want other people to react the way you want and disappoint each time, you get tired. I understand that, of course. May I ask if what you were told at work is useful? Will you always look sad? Unfortunately, this can overwhelm people; they just do not know what to say.
I would like to know if you have discussed this with your doctor. You can explain your situation by talking to a counselor or psychologist. They are special there for you and will not talk about their own lives like friends or family do. It helps to organize your thoughts and feelings and hopefully identify what the problem is and how to deal with it.
Speaking here can also be a relief. You know, take everything away without distraction and receive empathy and support so you do not feel alone. You really dare to come to us in a very nice way and ask for help!
If you search the forums for topics that may be of interest to you, you can also participate. There are people from all walks of life who can look a lot like you. By talking to members, you can explain your situation. It kind of works that way; giving support to get support is the motto of BeyondBlue.
I hope everything gets better. It’s a bold move to love you and I think it will pay off. I look forward to hearing from you. Take care of yourself …
communication plays a very important part in our life and one should know how to manifest the skill of good communication as i it is important in both personal and professional field…
here are some points on how to talk to anyone nicely
first of all it is important to approach the person u wanna talk with .so, don’t hesitate
politely greet them and maintain a good eye contact
u should introduce urself (keep it short, a long intro isnt necessary if it’s not related to anything professional such as interview)
as the other person about their interest and hobbies and tell them about ur views and interests
try to find something common so that u can natch ur vibes
keep it slow and steady , something amiable u don’t need to rush
be urself u don’t need not to act a perfectionist pr show off anything cuz no one is perfect… a lil imperfection is better than fake perfection
It’s important to make “good friends” and not the ones with red flags. The good friend should be supporting and honest with you.
About the job, don’t give up if they won’t accept you because sometimes it just take time until you find the place where you really fit. But if you really want to have that job in that place try asking others like your family how can you improve your skills and so on or you can go on internet to ask for advices (TWS ask is a nice place to do so)
