How to talk to strangers

[Olivia]

What does it take to greet strangers you meet on the street? How can this interaction be continued? Where can you connect with people you don’t know anymore? How do you get out of the conversation? Seems like the questions are easy. Not.

Each of the following expeditions provides a structure and a way to help you discover the world of people you don’t know. Each gives you a method or reason for talking to strangers, mechanical problems to solve.

You can do it alone or as a couple. You two will go on different expeditions and reports. Take notes along the way and write them down when you return. Share your notes on your blog, on your social networks, anywhere you write about your experiences. You can tell friends and readers about your observations. Recording experiences is a special way of processing them on their own. You can do it all in one day or spread out for months. Maybe you enjoy one of them and do it over and over again. You can give it a try and find out it’s not for you. Everything is possible.

The guiding principle of this expedition is respect for others, and every explorer should pay special attention to their own behavior. If you are male or of masculine appearance, be especially respectful when talking to women and people who look like women, as this can be perceived as a threat or a nuisance by default. Be polite, keep your distance physically, and don’t apply pressure when people don’t show they are open to interaction.

Consider the huge cultural differences in expectations for eye contact and street behavior. Remember that context matters. All of these expeditions may not make sense where you are. So for the same reason, I don’t recommend doing it in a culture where you are not soaking wet or genuine (except for the latter; see below).

Expeditions are presented in an increasing order of challenges: greater complexity, greater emotional risk, greater potential for deeper interactions. The first expedition is a warm-up to help you slow down and sharpen your awareness, sharpen your ability to observe public behavior, and put you in the right mindset. I highly recommend doing this once, regardless of which other expedition you choose.

[john]

Can you talk to people? Approaching people at networking events, parties, or in public places can be discouraging. But it doesn’t have to be that way! I want to teach you a few simple ways to talk to people. It’s about using conversational techniques.

Even if you didn’t learn this skill at a young age, I want to teach you how to communicate with new people quickly and effectively.

Heating
Before we get down to what we need to say to new people, I want to talk about the following:

Your heating
Your attitude
What happens before the interaction
We will consider this as a prediction of the people. To avoid cold communication, you need a warm approach. The most important thing to do when you first approach someone is to send “friendly signals”. When we first meet someone, our brain must quickly decide: is this person friend or foe? Here are some examples to differentiate between the two:

Hostile signals:

Crossed arms
Lack of eye contact
Hidden hands
Friends Signals:

Open body language; open torso, nothing blocks you
Direct eye contact during the procedure
Visible hands ready to shake hands
So the next time you meet someone new, make sure you approach them with friendly signals. You also earn bonus points if you laugh at them.

Discoverer
So now that you approach with friendly, warm, non-verbal cues, what do you say to someone? Composing and introducing sentences often makes people very nervous, but don’t worry, the introductory sentence isn’t as important as you might think. One of the best and most efficient loading lines is also the simplest line. Are you ready for this?

Best Introductory Sentence: “Hello, how are you?” It’s simple, right? This introductory sentence is simple and effective. So don’t go crazy when you come up with something smart or witty. Just say “Hello, how are you?” It worked for me 100% of the time.

Shake
Reach out after or under your opening sentence to shake hands firmly. But what if you’re not a shaker? Sorry, I want you to stand up and shake another’s hand. Why? Because shaking hands is so important. As soon as your skin touches someone else’s skin, you release chemicals that help you bond. If you want to create the art of the perfect handshake, watch our video here.

The next time you shake hands, there are some rules of thumb to keep in mind: keep your hands dry and hold the handshake firmly.

introduction
It’s time to introduce yourself. Once you open up with the words “Hello, how are you?” You want to start creating a report. To do this, you need to start with who you are and how you became. And if you can, return to them. For example, I might say, “Hi, I’m Vanessa. This is my first time at a conference, how are you? “Then they would answer, and what do you think? You speak now and you are no longer a stranger.

My last tip is to use food and drink as opening dishes if you can. Sitting at the counter is the easiest way to talk to the person next to you. It is very easy to visit the buffet to chat. We all eat and drink, so getting inside is very easy.

Here are some tips your mom never gave you: Go outside, talk to a few strangers, and see how easy it is to talk to someone.

Bonus: how to answer “Tell yourself”
Have you ever been to a party, network event, or even just been on a plane and you have a question: “Tell me about yourself?”

Seriously, what are you saying?

Fortunately, I have asked this question hundreds of times and have formulated a simple three-step process for resolving this question. Ready to take a dip?

[Janet]

I find it best when messaging a new person to type something different. A “hi”, “hello” or “how are you” are too basic and usually lead to boring conversations.

Some of the best conversations I have had are from users that open with a joke or something referring to my profile.

[Łæɮýřīñþḩïńęʍưßệ]

Greetings fellow reader with a venerated question.

1.First have the confidence to talk to them.do not fear to make meaningful connections with new people who can share with you a whole different perspective of life that could teach you lot about life and it’s diverse features

2.Second, Give a polite greeting with a friendly smile and narrate a normal introduction

3.third develop a popular interest so that you can find more like-minded people to talk to.

4.Fourth, Share and hear others’ interests and ignite your curiosity upon talking with them so that they feel like being heard or just talk about a general conversation like the recent affairs.share your interests too and you and the strangers can learn alot about each other

I hope I have assisted you so that you now have no doubt

[Amora]

It could honestly be as simple as going up to them and saying exactly what you think and what you want to do.

Obvious example: you see a cute girl/guy and you want to talk to them. You can easily go up and say “hey, I thought you were cute and I want to talk to you. What’s your name?”

It’s really as easy as that, you say what your honest opinion, and what whatever you wanted to do. A lot of people will like you for this, I am sure.

The most important part about this is that you just do what you want. If you see someone you are interested in (doesn’t necessarily mean attracted to) go up and talk to them! If they’re unresponsive, mean, or negative in any way, they’re probably not people you’d like to know anyways! No harm done.

[Ruth]

@Janet

A “hi”, “hello” or “how are you” are too basic and usually lead to boring conversations.

basic greetings like “hi” , “hello” and “how are you” maybe sounds boring when we greeting someone without any expression and emoji which makes some people think that you’re not interested in conversation but you can add emojis (if you are talking to someone online) but if you meet a person in real life greet them with smile and maintain eye contact (which implies that you are interested in having a conversation with that person),body language plays an important role in conversation and not everyone appreciates that a stranger suddenly approach them and crack a joke… As the topic is “how to talk to strangers” one should understand that they’re talking to a stranger not a friend (maybe you both can become friends in future) so , think before cracking a joke but one should keep the conversation amiable and try to find something common about you and the person you’re chatting with…
Basic greetings are also considered as good etiquettes and a positive way to start a conversation with anyone
( note : different people may have different opinion about this and i am not opposing anyone )

[Dream]

To some people shaking hands especially when it’s with a complete stranger can be somewhat uncomfortable. It’s always better to give the other person some space.