Need someone to talk to me

We all have some level of fear when it comes to asking a stranger to talk to me. One of the primary reasons that we share so much negativity towards strangers is because of what we all have been told by our parents. We were always advised by our parents to avoid talking to strangers. These messages still eco in our minds whenever we have to talk to a stranger.

These childhood thoughts get so embedded into our thoughts that even as adults we face problems while chatting. For some people, it is even difficult for them to go to a bar and sit with strangers. But these people are perfectly fine with being surrounded by strangers in a coffee shop.

The reason for this is that they assume that a coffee shop is a good place to meet friends. Whereas a pub is a place where you get into bar fights. There is no real explanation for this as these thoughts were created when we were children. If you desire that people come up to you and say 'talk to me', then you must have some commonalities that they can relate to. For this, you should practice talking with strangers online.

Dynamics of an Interaction

There are many different factors that might determine the outcome of an interaction. Some of these factors are as follows.

• Environment.

• Your role in the interaction.

• Role of the other person.

• Judging the other person.

• Is it appropriate to start a conversation in this place?

• Risk of embarrassment or making a mistake.

The environment

The setting you're in will decide how you feel about your communication and starting a

conversation. In order to better understand your environment you need to ask yourselves the following questions. Are you in a social environment, such as a business meeting, or a common one? Are you at a party, or in a restaurant? Whatever the environment, this will have an impact on how good you feel to engage in a chat with a stranger.

Your role

How do you see your role in the communication or situation? Is your role in the environment judgemental? Your role in any particular situation will decide how you feel about starting the conversation. Typically, if you feel that your role is of a lower standing then you will find it more difficult to start a chat with a stranger.

If you were at a business event and you were invited as the chief guest, then in that environment, your role will have a high perceived value. It means that you would probably find it much more relaxed to engage in conversations with others.

This is your mind playing with you. You don't need to think in terms of value like this. We are all humans and you should be happy talking to anybody in any situation regardless of positions. Your programming affects how you feel in a given situation. Your role relates directly to the role of the guest you are talking to.

Your perceived value in the circumstances is also expected to be based on the role you are playing in a situation. It could also be based on various things, such as the way you are dressed or what others are stating about you. For example,

Your first impression of the other person before you start to speak also has a huge significance on how the communication goes. When people talk to someone they don't know they may feel awkward. Similarly, if the same person talks to someone he knows he will not feel awkward at all.

The risk, when you talk to me

The last element of the dynamics of interaction is a risk. There is always a risk when you think about how your communication may be seen by others. For instance, starting a discussion with someone working in a retail store is very low risk compared to stopping a stranger in the street and asking them to 'talk to me'!

With a knowledge of the environment, and your role in any environment is your perceived value. Now you just need to consider how appropriate it is to start a conversation. You are now ready to start the first main stage of the interaction.

Talking With Men

Talking with men can be a men-to-men talk or a women-to-men talk. If you are a man and looking for another man then this platform is the best for you. Talk with thousands of men online from different countries. Get to know them and have a good time with them. They are very polite and respectful. They will excitedly welcome you. You will surely enjoy the company.

In a women-to-men talk, women talk with men. Men like to talk with women. Men are always waiting for a woman to send them a request for chatting. This could be a text chat or a video chat. People usually prefer video chat because it is fun. You get to talk face-to-face with your friends like you are talking in real life. All you need is a laptop or a PC and a webcam attached to it. 

Talking With Women 

Most people think that talking with women is hard but it’s not as hard as people think. Women connect easily with men for talking. You can find millions of women online. Choose the most suitable one and chat with your heart out. Don’t hesitate to express your feelings. This is a golden chance for you. Avail it to its fullest. Women are very talkative. You only need to give them a push and once they get started, then you will have fun with them. They don’t let you get bored. 

If you are shy and can’t face the audience, then you cannot have a video chat with the women. You can have a text chat with them.

Four stages of interaction

To succeed in any conversation you must go through the four stages of interaction. These four stages of the conversation are as follows:

Stage 1: Getting someone's attention and starting a chat

Stage 2: Creating curiosity and interest.

Stage 3: Making a connection so that the other person becomes more involved

Stage 4: Make them take action.

Stage 1: Getting someone's attention and starting a chat

If someone says to you ' please talk to me' you should try to be compassionate and kind to them. The focus of this first stage is on starting a chat with a stranger. You need to be very clear about what outcome you want from this chat. You need to ask your selves that, Is this chat for business or social purposes? Is it a casual discussion or is there something else you would like?

Knowing your desired outcome before starting a chat is vital. Let's say you have a co-worker who isn't doing his job properly and keeps making errors. You do need to speak to him, but what do you want to as a result of this conversation? By deciding the outcome before you start the conversation you can choose the right words, tone, and approach.

Stage 2: Creating curiosity and interest.

In your conversations with people, one of your key objectives is to keep their attention focused on you. When their attention is locked your conversation stands a chance of building a relationship. The best way to keep someone's attention focused is to generate curiosity or interest in whatever you are saying. You can also boost interest by playing online games with your partner.

Talking about unusual facts that are relevant to the conversation can help engage people more. Language directs the thinking process so by changing a word or two in a phrase the mental journey of the people can be completely different. If you say to someone 'What would you do if you hit a jackpot?' This will get them thinking about all of the things that they would do with the money if they win. Hence you can direct their thought process.

Stage 3: Making a connection so that the other person becomes more involved

In order to get somebody on board with your point of view, that person needs to feel that they are just like you to some extent. You need to ensure others that you have the same values and you think alike. They need to feel that you have interests that you both share.

Communication can sometimes be all about getting the other person to come up with your ideas. With regard to communication, the most important thing is to 'listen, listen, listen'. chatting is more about listening than talking.

When you listen closely and pay attention you can better understand the other person. You can always ask them for clarification on doesn't seem clear to you. When you build a better understanding of what they really mean; then you can have a fantastic outcome to your conversations.

Stage 4: Make them take action.

Once you have started talking to someone who invited you by saying 'please talk to me' in a chat room. It means that you have already sparked curiosity and interest in the other person. And when they feel that you understand them then a real connection has been established. Now we take a look into ways to get them to take action based on your suggestions.

This is like closing a sale in a business deal. Getting someone to agree with you is one thing but getting them to take action on your advice is the next level. Like making someone to go on a trip or perform an activity with you.

This should be done in a way that doesn't make anyone feel awkward. The key is making them feel like the natural thing for them to do. In order for someone to do something, they need to feel motivated about it. There are two simple steps to invoke action. First, ask them and, second, follow up until it happens. It's good to let them know that you will follow up if they want to decide later. We need to be motivated in order to do anything. You must have heard of the carrot and the stick technique. You will find this technique in some aspects of your life. If you are motivated by the stick then it means that you are doing it because of the consequences.

Other times you are motivated by the carrot when you are taking action because of the excitement. Some experts refer to it as moving away from pain or moving towards pleasure. The carrot and stick approach seems to work very well in most of the cases.